Reclaim your erotic life
In this podcast episode of Gruff Talk, host Barbara Hannah Grufferman shares what she learned from interviewing the world-famous relationship expert, Esther Perel, about how to reignite your sex life by just making a few simple shifts in how you think about your body, your relationships, and sex.
Esther Perel is the author of the best-selling book, Mating in Captivity, which Barbara has been recommending to her readers and listeners for over ten years.
According to Esther, a key expert Barbara interviewed for her best-selling book, The Best of Everything After 50, it’s all about the willingness to engage, which can lead to desire, which often leads to arousal, which brings you to the experience. Couples who have a good sex thing going — even after many years of being together or if they’ve just started dating — take time to figure out what they need to do to make it happen. Whatever it is, they know what it takes to make the transition from the work or domestic life to the erotic life, and they make planning a huge part of the erotic journey.
This can be especially challenging for couples who have been together for a while, causing things to get a bit stale in the bedroom. Add to the mix the negative sexual impact many common drugs (for cholesterol, hypertension, and so on) can have on the libido of both men and women, the physical complaints women often have during and after menopause (dryness) which can make sex less comfortable, and the constant stream of externals such as jobs, children, aging parents and so on. It’s not exactly conducive to swinging from chandeliers.
But, according to Esther, there are ways to get your erotic life back on track. Tune in to Part 1 of “Better Sex at Any Age” today and stay tuned for Part 2 next week.
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