Terri Sloane
Professional Matchmaker, Relationship and Dating Coach
Terri Sloane has always been a Professional Matchmaker, Relationship and Dating Coach. As far as she can remember, she always enjoyed
introducing her girl friends to their husbands, and even introduced her mother to her present husband. This all happened way before she even hung a shingle.
Terri always knew that she possessed the cupid gene and matchmaking was her calling. She even went to Graduate school to obtain a license in Counseling from Hunter College which helped perfect her skills.
For the past eleven years, Terri Sloane has helped New York Professionals find romance through her exclusive dating service. In addition, her successful coaching practice helps clients to understand them selves better so they can find the right partner at this special stage of life. And if they prefer to be single and just date, she shows them how to enjoy this freedom and simply have fun with dating.
Over the past five years, Terri has been asked to be a frequent speaker for single workshops at the 92nd St Y . She is an Expert on the topic of Baby Boomers and Dating. Her workshops, “How to meet men after 40”, and “How to Re-enter Dating” are much sought after in today’s dating world. She has also been in the New York Times, Quest Magazine, Newsday, and many other publications. In 2007 she was a featured guest speaker at the Fifty Plus Expo in NY addressing the needs of Single Baby Boomers
when it comes to dating.
You can reach Terri at:
Introductions by TS, Inc.
212-570-0866
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How to be more dateable in 2009 – the AAA Approach
Terri Sloane,
Professional Matchmaker, Relationship and Dating Coach
Before beginning your search to find the right match in the economic uncertainty of 2009, you must first INVEST in yourself! Examine
who you are at this very moment in time. Do a no-cost personal
audit. Scan from head to toe. Be honest with the answers you find.
Call this, “THE AAA APPROACH” to recession proof dating.
Using this approach, start with asking some questions. How is your
attitude? Are you approachable? How about your appearance?
If we like who we are and what we see, then let’s move forward.
Otherwise, make some necessary alterations and then be on your way. You only get one chance at a first impression, so let’s make it your best.
You might want to keep in mind the classic saying, “there are lots of fish in the sea” Thinking that way helps you begin with a positive optimistic attitude. You also want to think about what is your demeanor saying. Are you greeting someone with a smile, softly looking them in the eye,
maybe even flirting a bit (it’s fun and harmless and everyone enjoys
the attention and banter). Finally, is your appearance well groomed and dress up to date?
Now you are ready to get started and attract great new men in your life…..
Here’s my 7 Best Tips for Today’s climate that assure your dating life
will not be in a downturn:
1. Re-awaken the woman in you-
Go back to being feminine again. Be well-mannered, be appreciative,
kind, caring, and re-awaken the sexy that’s inside of you. Dress sexy,
and be sexy. Men are starved for soft, feminine women that actually need them too. Women are so used to taking care of themselves, they forgot
to let someone take care of them. Let go….. Let them!
2. Be Pro-active-----
Don’t be shy, ask your friends, colleagues, even acquaintences
if they might know someone for you to meet. Your very own
Doormen in the city might know a fabulous single man living
in your building. And if he doesn’t, you might even meet
a great guy while your in the elevator greeting him with a
terrific smile. (You just never know)
3. Travel Solo----
A woman alone is much more approachable and mysterious.
Go to a show, concert, opera alone. During intermission mingle,
stand alone, smile at an attractive man who is alone. Plenty
of men would welcome the opportunity to be approached in
a non threatening flirty way…Go out for diner alone, sit at
the bar, or at a table close to the bar. Steak restaurants are great
places to meet men such as Sparks, The Palm, Smith and Wolensky.
3. Go to Lectures and take courses at the 92nd St Y---
They also have events and workshops strictly for singles. On Jan 21st, and April 7th, I will be doing a workshop there on “How to meet more men after 40”. On March 18th, “Re-entering the Dating World” and on March 25th,
“Are you ready to date”. These are fun filled interactive workshops with
lots of great tips.
4. Have a Strategic Social Plan-
At least once a month, or I prefer once a week, enter into your calendar
an event, social function, activity, class that would give you joy and
increase your opportunities to meet other single people.
You might want to join a running club, take cooking lessons, learn a
new language, take dancing lessons, belong to a book club. The list
is endless. The objective is to have fun and expand your social circles.
While your out enjoying yourself I can guarantee you that you will
make new and interesting friends. And you might even meet someone
to date.
5. Do Internet Dating----
Lots of Professional Baby Boomers are using the internet to meet
Singles. There are special interest sites and also social networking
sites. The ones that attract a large circle of older singles are jdate,
Match, eharmony, just to mention a few. Find a site that you're
comfortable using and make sure that you have a great picture
posted, and interesting profile , and creative user name.
6. Make friends with Dates that don’t work out-
Don’t burn your bridges when it comes to dating. You might
meet a terrific guy who could be a great friend to you and may
even know someone to introduce you too. Remember, single
men, know single men.
7. And finally, be true to yourself. Know who you are, the
kind of person that you need, and don’t try and change anyone.
If you enjoy the process of dating without focusing on the end result,
the right person will appear for you when you least expect it.
And remember, dating is meant to be fun!!!
You can reach Terri at:
Introductions by TS, Inc.
212-570-0866
